Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?

According to reports, roughly 70% of women don%u2019t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!

A lot of flack fall on men on why women don%u2019t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.

6 Reasons Why Women DON%u2019T Climax

There are many reasons why women don%u2019t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men%u2019s faults but a lot can be because of her too%u2026

Foreplay? What foreplay?

Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don%u2019t %u2018condition%u2019 her mind for sex, then chances are she won%u2019t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.

She%u2019s thinking too much!

Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they%u2019re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be %u2018in the moment%u2019 during sex. If most men can be very %u2018in the zone%u2019 during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids%u2019 homework, dirty laundry, etc.).

She%u2019s full of%u2026 insecurities.

Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my %u2018love handles%u2019 protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?

If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as %u201CI didn%u2019t shower yet, I hope I smell good%u2026 especially down there.%u201D, or %u201CI didn%u2019t pee. I hope I don%u2019t embarrass myself.%u201D

ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It%u2019s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it%u2019s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!

She really doesn%u2019t know her own body.

There is a certain art form to making love to a woman%u2019s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don%u2019t indulge in a lot of %u2018self exploration%u2019 when it comes to sex. As such, it%u2019s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn%u2019t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?

The best thing is%u2026 it%u2019s never too late to learn! Why don%u2019t you BOTH explore her body? Don%u2019t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps%u2026

YOU%u2019re not paying attention!

True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of %u2018faking orgasms%u2019. As a result, YOU think that what you%u2019re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!

To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain %u2018sexual code%u2019 between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means %u201CYou%u2019re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!%u201D; while nails on your skin or arm mean %u201Cenough of that!%u201D. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...

YOU%u2019re changing %u2018techniques%u2019 too fast.

Men like to try different sexual positions and that%u2019s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain %u2018rhythm%u2019 before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.

So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it%u2019s not just location, location, location%u2026 it%u2019s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.

Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don%u2019t focus on why she%u2019s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That%u2019s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here%u2026

How to Give Her an Orgasm

Is it really so hard to give a woman an orgasm? Many say it%u2019s difficult but many men also claim that it%u2019s very easy%u2026 IF you know what to do. So the question is, do you?

Any health, loving and lasting relationship counts a great sex life as a key ingredient. And if you look around you, it%u2019s probably not hard to tell which couples are truly happy with each other. These are the couples that still look at each other with lust in their eyes! So what%u2019s their secret? It%u2019s probably because they are BOTH sexually satisfied in their relationship.

A lot of people know that women don%u2019t reach an orgasm as easily or as quickly as men. What many don%u2019t realize is that this does nothing but build sexual frustration. And sexual frustration manifests itself in many negative ways in a relationship; until one day, you both wake up and realize that you no longer have passion in each other and in your lives.

The good news is it%u2019s really not hard at all to make a woman reach an orgasm. But you both have to work at it, which, if you think about it, is part of the fun as well!

How to Make Her %u2018Come%u2019 %u2013 A Step-by-Step Guide

You may find this step-by-step guide useful. It is one of the many tools that Gabrielle Moore, an expert on sex education has created. Click here to learn more about other tools by visiting her website...

Step 1

Engage in a lot of foreplay! Foreplay is very important because it helps her relax her mind and make her more focused on the lovemaking at hand. It%u2019s also a great way to bond as many women associate foreplay as a man%u2019s way of taking time and ensuring sex is not just a physical act but about intimacy.

Foreplay can start hours or even days in advance and is really limited only by your sexual imagination. As you keep this %u2018sexual tension%u2019 high, you%u2019ll find that it%u2019s actually easier to bring her to an orgasm once you do engage in sex.

Step 2

If foreplay is the %u2018primer%u2019, oral sex is the next big step. Many women actually claim that oral sex is the ONLY way they can reach an orgasm so if you both want it to be that way, then don%u2019t resist.

When you do go down on her, don%u2019t rush it. Show her that you really love her by lavishing her genitals with your undivided attention. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination so to speak.

At the start, just tease and lick softly and lovingly. Once she%u2019s focused on that part of her body, increase the tempo. When you notice that her breathing is getting faster and harder or if her legs are becoming taut, move your attention to her clitoris. Tease it by drawing small circles around it with your tongue and then apply more pressure and lick faster.

If she gives any indication at all that she%u2019s really turned on, remember this: DON%u2019T change anything. Keep the tempo of what you%u2019re doing and she%u2019ll reach her orgasm soon enough.

Step 3

If your tongue doesn%u2019t bring her to an immediate orgasm, don%u2019t despair. Don%u2019t forget that your fingers can be put to good use too! Use your index finger to %u2018trace%u2019 the outline of her labia. Be sure to touch her gently. This is guaranteed to electrify her body. After this, place your index and middle finger together and then draw circles around her clitoris.

Pay attention to her body (is it in a pleasured, relaxed state or is it pulled taut like a string?) to gauge just how turned on she is. Don%u2019t forget to pay attention to her moans and groans as well.

You can alternate using your tongue and fingers to stimulate her clitoris and just like what%u2019s advised above, if she indicates something that%u2019s really turning her on, just keep doing it! To learn more about other techniques to stimulate her, click here%u2026

Step 4

If clitoral stimulation has not brought on an orgasm yet, then try G-spot stimulation! Assuming that she%u2019s already hot and wet, slowly insert your index and middle finger inside her womanhood, palm up. Once inside, position your fingers to the %u201C11 o%u2019clock%u201D. Slowly try and locate a small bump or swelling (like an engorged clitoris). Once you find this spot, congratulations%u2026 you%u2019ve located the elusive G-spot!

Step 5

You can stimulate the G-spot in many ways. You can tap it with your fingers, draw lazy or frenzied circles around it, or flick it wildly like a light switch. If you wish, you can use your thumb to stimulate her clitoris while stimulating her G-spot. This will surely give her an orgasm to be remembered! To learn more, click here%u2026